A Friendship That Last

I am so happy right now. It’s been awhile since I had a guy friend, who totally understands me, respects me, and most of all, someone who’s not thinking of hitting on me.

Lately I was able to build a friendship with a guy. He’s not someone new since I’ve known him way back in 2011 or 12. However, it’s just now that we were able to talk with other and found out that we have a lot of things in common. There are numbers of things that we can share with each other without getting bored. We can laugh for hours and hours without realizing how fast time flies. It was like a match made in heaven, only that it’s not a romantic match up.

It feels great to be able to talk with someone who sees things differently from how I see them. It’s good to see a different point of view even if I don’t think that way. It’s more like a matter of widening my perspective in some topics under the sun.

Plus, it’s awesome to hangout with someone who loves music (more than I do). His music is very comforting and I enjoy singing with him even if I don’t have a beautiful voice. I just love seeing him play his instrument (it doesn’t matter what he uses).

I’m always looking forward being with him, talking to him, and creating with him. It’s like he’s one of the missing pieces in my life that I didn’t really know was missing until I found him. The kind of friendship that we have is so fulfilling and it makes me super happy. I’m wishing that it never ends.

Friends with Benefits: A Point Well Taken

Ano na ba ang panahon ngayon? Sabi nila, modern times na raw ngayon. Lahat ng bagay madaling palitan. Kahit anong gadget, kapag nasira ay pwede na itapon at palitan, hindi na dapat ayusin.

Ganun na rin ba sa relasyon?

Kahit saan ka lumingon, maraming tao ang naghahanap ng true love – quote and quote. Sa sobrang dami nila, iilan lang ang nakakahanap noon. Ang iba, namamatay na lang ng hindi man lang nakakatikim ng “true love.” Maraming gusto ang makatagpo ng totoong magmamahal sa kanila, forever and ever AMEN, pero iilan lang ba ang gustong sumugal sa totoong relasyon?

FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS

Usong-uso ‘yan ngayon! Lalo na sa mga taong takot na matali sa relasyon, o mga taong ayaw talagang magkaron ng totoong relasyon.

Bakit?

Kasi nga ayaw naman talaga ng seryosong relasyon. At uulitin ko, ayaw naman talaga ng totoong relasyon. Hindi nga kasi seryoso, gusto lang makipaglaro at ayaw ng seryosong relasyon. Isa pa? Ayaw nga. Bakit ka nga naman kukuha ng karelasyon na high maintenance kung pwede ka naman magkaroon ng kaibigan na ibibigay sa’yo lahat, as in, lahat LAHAT! At oo dala na po dun ang sex life, at again, hindi kailangang pumapasok sa isang relasyon. Pwede kayong mag-astang sweet, kumakain sa labas, magkasamang namamasyal sa mall, tumagay kasama buong barkada, manuod ng sine, mag one to sawang alipin ng unlimited call and text para lang magsabihan ng I miss you, I love you, oh baby, oh baby, at kung anu-ano pang kaartehan sa mundo na pwedeng gawin ng mga taong feel na feel ang pagpapakilig pero HINDI KAYO OFFICIALLY MAG-ON!

FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS

Pwede ka sumama kahit kanino mo gusto. Ok lang na hindi ka mag text, hindi ka tumawag, hindi ka mag “hi” sa FB, Twitter, Instagram, Skype, Viber, at kung anu-ano pa, at hindi kailangang magpaalam kung saan ka pupunta. At ok lang din na ganun ang gawin nya, basta kapag magkasama kayo, enjoy kayo. Pero kapag hindi na kayo magkasama, wala nang pakialaman, kahit lumandi pa sya sa iba. Basta wala kang karapatang magselos dahil ano ba naman kayo? Magkaibigan lang kayo at wala kang ibang lugar sa buhay nya kung hindi hanggang doon lang.

FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS

Maganda raw yang status na ‘yan kasi “no strings attached”. Walang commitment. Walang pakialamanan. Walang sisihan. Walang seryosohan.  Paano ‘yan kung tuluyan kang mahulog sa kanya? Aba, again, walang pakialamanan. Walang basagan ng trip. Wala ring dramahan. At kung sawa na kayo sa isa’t-isa, eh ‘di tapon nyo ang isa’t-isa, kasi nga naman modern times na ngayon. Hindi na uso ang inaayos ang mga bagay-bagay at lahat disposable na, kahit tao.

Anong nangyari kay TRUE LOVE? Waley!

FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS. Free for all ‘yan. Bahala ka if you will grab it kasi libre lang naman ‘yan eh. Pero kapag nagkasakitan na, again and again and AGAIN, walang sisihan.

Friendly reminder lang po!

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Just When Your Boss Stops Paying You

It’s never hard for me to take pride of being a single working mom.

Who would have thought that by the age of 28, I’ll be a virtual assistant / blogger / customer representative / financial advisor / entrepreneur / mom, all at the same time? No one, even me! So, as an individual, just imagine how I juggle my time from one role to another, just for me to be a good mom and a good dad, both at the same time.

But what would you do when one of your Boss’ stops paying you? Worse, he didn’t even inform you that he won’t pay you? How would you react? What would you do?

Just imagine those working hours that you allotted to fulfill your duties. Imagine those me-times and the supposed to be time for your kids that you gave up, just for you to work for that person. Yet, that effort wasn’t monetize. And you know what’s worse? You were not informed that you will never get paid!

WHAT A TOTAL WASTE OF TIME AND EFFORT! YES?

A huge part of me is saying, YES! It would have been a time well spent to do other things that could have monetized by now. It would have been better if I have spent those times with my kids or my dog, or I could have blogged more than I did for the past few months, because those are the things I don’t mind doing even if I don’t get paid. I should have spent those times meeting other people who can help me in my future business ventures, instead of being stuck on my laptop doing things for a person who doesn’t even care what I’m doing.

Believe me, there’s a long list of my should haves, could haves, and would haves, yaddah, yaddah, yaddah, but it all boils down to one thing… I’M STILL NOT PAID.

But should I continue with my remorse?

DEFINITELY NOT!

Life is beautiful to be forever stuck in a situation that is totally unwanted. Yes, it’s true that I have unpaid hours that could have been more productive if I used it differently and I might be enjoying the fruits of my labor by now. However, I am still thankful because this situation have taught me one thing: ALWAYS BE THE BIGGER PERSON IN ALL YOUR DEALINGS.

This situation taught me not to react negatively or not to act by impulse. I guess it’s normal to get pissed in this kind of situation. What’s not normal is not to get over it AND do some crazy destructive stuff against the Boss. Always be the bigger person by not giving in to the primitive survival instinct of human nature. Always be the bigger person by controlling your willingness to out burst in anger and frustration because of not getting the well-deserved compensation. Just think of it this way; sure you can curse him, hate him, shout at him, and do those crazy destructive activities towards him, but one reality still remains: “You’re still not getting paid!” So, why waste a ton of energy striving to get what you think you deserve and go for more productive activities and choose a more mature disposition in handling this kind of situation. Fighting for what you deserve is good. However, you should know when to let go. Think about it. How much where you trying to get for your unpaid hours? Is it worth going through the stress? If YES, go ahead and go get your boss in the head. If NO, just move on and be happy.

I’m still grateful for situations like this because it’s teaching me be the bigger person by keeping a grateful heart. I’m still thankful that before this happened to me, I had the initiative to get a different source of income aside from that job. If it’s the only source of income I have, then, that would be an entirely different story. One of the downsides of home-based jobs is the risks of not getting paid. But if you’re the bigger person in the picture, you’ve already anticipated this situation and should have worked on making the risks smaller by spreading the eggs to different baskets, if you know what I mean.

I’m grateful for this situation because it made me realize that once I’m already hiring people to work for me, I should never EVER be an inconsiderate Boss. I will put my business and all the persons involved in my priority list. As a Boss, I have the moral obligations and responsibilities to my employees which I have to uphold, to be able to continue touching the lives of the employees together with their families.

So, yes. In this situation, I choose to be the bigger person and move on. For me, this is the best option to choose because it’s a less stressful option. I’ll just let it pass me by. Anyway, God is not blind and He sees all our dealings. He has seen how much effort I’ve put in to my work for that person for more than a year. I believe I will get compensated in God’s time.