What would you do?

What would you do if you’re torn between doing what’s right for you and doing what’s right for others?

What would you do if you’ve lived all your life trying to please other people, but at the end of the day, they’re still not happy and they’re expecting more from you?

What would you do if you have given up your dreams and your happiness but still they can’t see all your effort and they’re telling you, you haven’t given enough?

What would you do when you reach the point wherein you realize that the things going on in your life are the things that you don’t want to happen in your life and you want something else?

What would you do if you’re stuck all your life and there’s this one opportunity for you to change everything, but in return, you have to drop all the things that you’ve been believing all your life?

What would you do?

Friends with Benefits: A Point Well Taken

Ano na ba ang panahon ngayon? Sabi nila, modern times na raw ngayon. Lahat ng bagay madaling palitan. Kahit anong gadget, kapag nasira ay pwede na itapon at palitan, hindi na dapat ayusin.

Ganun na rin ba sa relasyon?

Kahit saan ka lumingon, maraming tao ang naghahanap ng true love – quote and quote. Sa sobrang dami nila, iilan lang ang nakakahanap noon. Ang iba, namamatay na lang ng hindi man lang nakakatikim ng “true love.” Maraming gusto ang makatagpo ng totoong magmamahal sa kanila, forever and ever AMEN, pero iilan lang ba ang gustong sumugal sa totoong relasyon?

FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS

Usong-uso ‘yan ngayon! Lalo na sa mga taong takot na matali sa relasyon, o mga taong ayaw talagang magkaron ng totoong relasyon.

Bakit?

Kasi nga ayaw naman talaga ng seryosong relasyon. At uulitin ko, ayaw naman talaga ng totoong relasyon. Hindi nga kasi seryoso, gusto lang makipaglaro at ayaw ng seryosong relasyon. Isa pa? Ayaw nga. Bakit ka nga naman kukuha ng karelasyon na high maintenance kung pwede ka naman magkaroon ng kaibigan na ibibigay sa’yo lahat, as in, lahat LAHAT! At oo dala na po dun ang sex life, at again, hindi kailangang pumapasok sa isang relasyon. Pwede kayong mag-astang sweet, kumakain sa labas, magkasamang namamasyal sa mall, tumagay kasama buong barkada, manuod ng sine, mag one to sawang alipin ng unlimited call and text para lang magsabihan ng I miss you, I love you, oh baby, oh baby, at kung anu-ano pang kaartehan sa mundo na pwedeng gawin ng mga taong feel na feel ang pagpapakilig pero HINDI KAYO OFFICIALLY MAG-ON!

FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS

Pwede ka sumama kahit kanino mo gusto. Ok lang na hindi ka mag text, hindi ka tumawag, hindi ka mag “hi” sa FB, Twitter, Instagram, Skype, Viber, at kung anu-ano pa, at hindi kailangang magpaalam kung saan ka pupunta. At ok lang din na ganun ang gawin nya, basta kapag magkasama kayo, enjoy kayo. Pero kapag hindi na kayo magkasama, wala nang pakialaman, kahit lumandi pa sya sa iba. Basta wala kang karapatang magselos dahil ano ba naman kayo? Magkaibigan lang kayo at wala kang ibang lugar sa buhay nya kung hindi hanggang doon lang.

FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS

Maganda raw yang status na ‘yan kasi “no strings attached”. Walang commitment. Walang pakialamanan. Walang sisihan. Walang seryosohan.  Paano ‘yan kung tuluyan kang mahulog sa kanya? Aba, again, walang pakialamanan. Walang basagan ng trip. Wala ring dramahan. At kung sawa na kayo sa isa’t-isa, eh ‘di tapon nyo ang isa’t-isa, kasi nga naman modern times na ngayon. Hindi na uso ang inaayos ang mga bagay-bagay at lahat disposable na, kahit tao.

Anong nangyari kay TRUE LOVE? Waley!

FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS. Free for all ‘yan. Bahala ka if you will grab it kasi libre lang naman ‘yan eh. Pero kapag nagkasakitan na, again and again and AGAIN, walang sisihan.

Friendly reminder lang po!

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Wrong Send – Part 3

Behold, the 3rd part of my ‘rant’ about the text messages I received from an anonymous wife. You can read Part 1 and Part 2 by clicking the links respectively.

So again, I felt bad for being wrongly accused. But what exactly did I do? Did I get mad at the lady? Nope. I didn’t. Did I call her and shout at her to make my point. Nope. I didn’t do that. Did I scold her and embarrass her in any means and ways? Nope. I didn’t do that either.

I didn’t do any of those because at some point, I did understand where she’s coming from. I’m a woman and a mother, too. I know that she’s just trying to protect her family, that’s why she was in full defense mode and she was strongly offensive at the same time. In some extent, I understand she’s afraid of having a wrecked family, she’s feeling too bad for finding out that her husband got a ‘3rd wheel’, and she just gotta release all those negative emotions stuck within her. I really do understand her. And I understand why she wasn’t open for reconsideration and she didn’t want to listen to any voice of reason, which I personally think is sad. I understand her being emotional, but at the back of my mind, I hope that she would listen.

Again and again, I’ve been in her position, BUT, I never bad mouthed my ex-husband’s other woman. When I was younger, boyfriend then had a 3rd wheel and he admitted it, but I didn’t confront the girl. I confronted my ex-boyfriend but not the girl. As for my ex-husband, I confronted him; I cursed him and told him all the hatred I felt for him, but I never did that to the other woman. I’ve never confronted any 3rd wheel in my whole lifetime.

Why? Because, I got nothing to do with the 3rd wheel.

Why? Simply because for me, the one liable in that kind of situation was my ex. I’m not being a sexist here, but I’m just putting the blame on the guy because he’s the one who has the commitment to me, not the 3rd party. The guy has full knowledge that he’s already committed to someone, and he should keep that commitment, but he chose to betray that relationship. So, that’s totally on him. Whether the other woman was the first one to give the motive; the hell I care! It’s still on the guy.

Human as I am, I felt terrible when I was wrongly accused because of the five reasons I gave in Part 2. But despite of that terrible feeling, I kept my composure. I did my best to keep my cool and stick with reason and be logical in dealing with the situation. I think I was successful in dealing with her professionally and I was able to keep myself civilized, despite of her strong attacks. I knew all along that she won’t listen because I’m pretty much aware that her mind was already clouded and I knew it’s hard to think straight, especially when you’re deeply hurt and you’re too emotional. That’s why I preferred to sleep and let my boyfriend call her to clear things up.

My boyfriend and I talked about the situation and how it’s affecting us, but we never heard a word from her after several attempts to call her. My boyfriend said he’s lucky because I wasn’t illogical during the whole process. He’s glad I didn’t accuse him of anything despite of the claims of the anonymous texter. He said a typical girlfriend would make a fuss about the situation, and most likely, couples will fight over such situation even if it’s obvious that it’s merely a wrong sent text message. For me, why would I create a fuss out of it? I don’t want to give effort on that. Why fight if you can talk, right? My boyfriend said he’s glad that I’m not a typical irrational + emotional girlfriend, but he considers me as a rational + emotional. Hey, I still listen to the voice of reason despite of what’s going on, but being emotional is just too strong, I haven’t mastered that part yet.

Lesson:

Listen to the voice of reason no matter how intense the situation is.

Well, what would you do if you were me?