What would you do?

What would you do if you’re torn between doing what’s right for you and doing what’s right for others?

What would you do if you’ve lived all your life trying to please other people, but at the end of the day, they’re still not happy and they’re expecting more from you?

What would you do if you have given up your dreams and your happiness but still they can’t see all your effort and they’re telling you, you haven’t given enough?

What would you do when you reach the point wherein you realize that the things going on in your life are the things that you don’t want to happen in your life and you want something else?

What would you do if you’re stuck all your life and there’s this one opportunity for you to change everything, but in return, you have to drop all the things that you’ve been believing all your life?

What would you do?

Friends with Benefits: A Point Well Taken

Ano na ba ang panahon ngayon? Sabi nila, modern times na raw ngayon. Lahat ng bagay madaling palitan. Kahit anong gadget, kapag nasira ay pwede na itapon at palitan, hindi na dapat ayusin.

Ganun na rin ba sa relasyon?

Kahit saan ka lumingon, maraming tao ang naghahanap ng true love – quote and quote. Sa sobrang dami nila, iilan lang ang nakakahanap noon. Ang iba, namamatay na lang ng hindi man lang nakakatikim ng “true love.” Maraming gusto ang makatagpo ng totoong magmamahal sa kanila, forever and ever AMEN, pero iilan lang ba ang gustong sumugal sa totoong relasyon?

FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS

Usong-uso ‘yan ngayon! Lalo na sa mga taong takot na matali sa relasyon, o mga taong ayaw talagang magkaron ng totoong relasyon.

Bakit?

Kasi nga ayaw naman talaga ng seryosong relasyon. At uulitin ko, ayaw naman talaga ng totoong relasyon. Hindi nga kasi seryoso, gusto lang makipaglaro at ayaw ng seryosong relasyon. Isa pa? Ayaw nga. Bakit ka nga naman kukuha ng karelasyon na high maintenance kung pwede ka naman magkaroon ng kaibigan na ibibigay sa’yo lahat, as in, lahat LAHAT! At oo dala na po dun ang sex life, at again, hindi kailangang pumapasok sa isang relasyon. Pwede kayong mag-astang sweet, kumakain sa labas, magkasamang namamasyal sa mall, tumagay kasama buong barkada, manuod ng sine, mag one to sawang alipin ng unlimited call and text para lang magsabihan ng I miss you, I love you, oh baby, oh baby, at kung anu-ano pang kaartehan sa mundo na pwedeng gawin ng mga taong feel na feel ang pagpapakilig pero HINDI KAYO OFFICIALLY MAG-ON!

FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS

Pwede ka sumama kahit kanino mo gusto. Ok lang na hindi ka mag text, hindi ka tumawag, hindi ka mag “hi” sa FB, Twitter, Instagram, Skype, Viber, at kung anu-ano pa, at hindi kailangang magpaalam kung saan ka pupunta. At ok lang din na ganun ang gawin nya, basta kapag magkasama kayo, enjoy kayo. Pero kapag hindi na kayo magkasama, wala nang pakialaman, kahit lumandi pa sya sa iba. Basta wala kang karapatang magselos dahil ano ba naman kayo? Magkaibigan lang kayo at wala kang ibang lugar sa buhay nya kung hindi hanggang doon lang.

FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS

Maganda raw yang status na ‘yan kasi “no strings attached”. Walang commitment. Walang pakialamanan. Walang sisihan. Walang seryosohan.  Paano ‘yan kung tuluyan kang mahulog sa kanya? Aba, again, walang pakialamanan. Walang basagan ng trip. Wala ring dramahan. At kung sawa na kayo sa isa’t-isa, eh ‘di tapon nyo ang isa’t-isa, kasi nga naman modern times na ngayon. Hindi na uso ang inaayos ang mga bagay-bagay at lahat disposable na, kahit tao.

Anong nangyari kay TRUE LOVE? Waley!

FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS. Free for all ‘yan. Bahala ka if you will grab it kasi libre lang naman ‘yan eh. Pero kapag nagkasakitan na, again and again and AGAIN, walang sisihan.

Friendly reminder lang po!

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Wrong Send – Part 2

So, yah. I got an irritating, accusing text message from an anonymous wife a few days ago, that really made me feel bad for a few hours [ you can read the rest of the info in Wrong Send – Part I ].

Here’s why I felt bad about the freaking situation:

1. My family was ruined because of a “3rd wheel”. My marriage didn’t work out because of it. I’m not proud about what happened but I’m not hiding it. It is what it is, so I just have to suck it all in, get back on my feet and move on with my life.

2. A few years ago, I suffered from depression because my family got wrecked right after I gave birth and I felt like a total shit. It was a disaster.

3. Being in the position of having a wrecked family is not a good position at all. It’s the worst position EVER.

4. I know how it is; I know how it feels to lose somebody whom you offered your life to and promised to live the rest of your life with, because of a certain 3rd wheel.

5. I know how it is to be a mom to a fatherless kid who isn’t suppose to be fatherless in the first place.

Given these five reasons, why the hell would I allow myself to become a 3rd party in whomsoever marriage? Why would I do that to myself? And why would I do that to somebody else’s family. Again, I’ve been through a lot of shits, and man, I won’t allow myself to be in that position again, and I won’t and NEVER become a 3rd party to anybody else’s marriage. Woooh! I need some fresh air.

So again, I felt bad for being wrongly accused. But what exactly did I do? Did I get mad at the lady? Nope. I didn’t. Did I call her and shout at her to make my point. Nope. I didn’t do that. Did I scold her and embarrass her in any means and ways? Nope. I didn’t do that either.

What I did was:

1. I clarified whom the message was for. I told her that I’ve never been a 3rd party to anyone’s relationship and I told her that she’s barking at the wrong tree.

2. I informed her that yes, I have a boyfriend, but my boyfriend is and was never married to anyone, and he got zero kids as of now.

3. I told her that if she truly believes that I’m her husband’s other woman, we must probably meet somewhere so we can talk personally. I don’t like cat fights because it’s a total waste of time, but I’m willing to spend time to clear my name because I don’t want to be tagged as a 3rd wheel or a home wrecker because of the reasons I mentioned above.

4. I told her that like her, I also strongly believe in Karma, and I’m not afraid of it because my conscience is crystal clear, as far as her accusations are concerned.

5. I told my boyfriend about the lady who’s bad mouthing me, and he offered to clear things up. So he called her up and I decided to sleep. Yep. I preferred to sleep than to deal with it.

My boyfriend called the anonymous number a few times, but no one’s answering. Maybe she figured out that she got it all wrong. I don’t know. We have no idea why she wouldn’t answer her phone. I’m thinking that, if she’s so sure about her accusations and whatever she’s been texting me, she could have at least answered the phone.

I’m not sure what happened but, maybe the message was meant for somebody else. Well… that settles it. I hope she won’t text me again because it’s so damn stressful, even if we knew from the start that it’s all wrong.

Lesson:

Be careful in sending text messages. Make sure the message is sent to the right person. 😉