A Friendship That Last

I am so happy right now. It’s been awhile since I had a guy friend, who totally understands me, respects me, and most of all, someone who’s not thinking of hitting on me.

Lately I was able to build a friendship with a guy. He’s not someone new since I’ve known him way back in 2011 or 12. However, it’s just now that we were able to talk with other and found out that we have a lot of things in common. There are numbers of things that we can share with each other without getting bored. We can laugh for hours and hours without realizing how fast time flies. It was like a match made in heaven, only that it’s not a romantic match up.

It feels great to be able to talk with someone who sees things differently from how I see them. It’s good to see a different point of view even if I don’t think that way. It’s more like a matter of widening my perspective in some topics under the sun.

Plus, it’s awesome to hangout with someone who loves music (more than I do). His music is very comforting and I enjoy singing with him even if I don’t have a beautiful voice. I just love seeing him play his instrument (it doesn’t matter what he uses).

I’m always looking forward being with him, talking to him, and creating with him. It’s like he’s one of the missing pieces in my life that I didn’t really know was missing until I found him. The kind of friendship that we have is so fulfilling and it makes me super happy. I’m wishing that it never ends.

Wrong Send – Part 3

Behold, the 3rd part of my ‘rant’ about the text messages I received from an anonymous wife. You can read Part 1 and Part 2┬áby clicking the links respectively.

So again, I felt bad for being wrongly accused. But what exactly did I do? Did I get mad at the lady? Nope. I didn’t. Did I call her and shout at her to make my point. Nope. I didn’t do that. Did I scold her and embarrass her in any means and ways? Nope. I didn’t do that either.

I didn’t do any of those because at some point, I did understand where she’s coming from. I’m a woman and a mother, too. I know that she’s just trying to protect her family, that’s why she was in full defense mode and she was strongly offensive at the same time. In some extent, I understand she’s afraid of having a wrecked family, she’s feeling too bad for finding out that her husband got a ‘3rd wheel’, and she just gotta release all those negative emotions stuck within her. I really do understand her. And I understand why she wasn’t open for reconsideration and she didn’t want to listen to any voice of reason, which I personally think is sad. I understand her being emotional, but at the back of my mind, I hope that she would listen.

Again and again, I’ve been in her position, BUT, I never bad mouthed my ex-husband’s other woman. When I was younger, boyfriend then had a 3rd wheel and he admitted it, but I didn’t confront the girl. I confronted my ex-boyfriend but not the girl. As for my ex-husband, I confronted him; I cursed him and told him all the hatred I felt for him, but I never did that to the other woman. I’ve never confronted any 3rd wheel in my whole lifetime.

Why? Because, I got nothing to do with the 3rd wheel.

Why? Simply because for me, the one liable in that kind of situation was my ex. I’m not being a sexist here, but I’m just putting the blame on the guy because he’s the one who has the commitment to me, not the 3rd party. The guy has full knowledge that he’s already committed to someone, and he should keep that commitment, but he chose to betray that relationship. So, that’s totally on him. Whether the other woman was the first one to give the motive; the hell I care! It’s still on the guy.

Human as I am, I felt terrible when I was wrongly accused because of the five reasons I gave in Part 2. But despite of that terrible feeling, I kept my composure. I did my best to keep my cool and stick with reason and be logical in dealing with the situation. I think I was successful in dealing with her professionally and I was able to keep myself civilized, despite of her strong attacks. I knew all along that she won’t listen because I’m pretty much aware that her mind was already clouded and I knew it’s hard to think straight, especially when you’re deeply hurt and you’re too emotional. That’s why I preferred to sleep and let my boyfriend call her to clear things up.

My boyfriend and I talked about the situation and how it’s affecting us, but we never heard a word from her after several attempts to call her. My boyfriend said he’s lucky because I wasn’t illogical during the whole process. He’s glad I didn’t accuse him of anything despite of the claims of the anonymous texter. He said a typical girlfriend would make a fuss about the situation, and most likely, couples will fight over such situation even if it’s obvious that it’s merely a wrong sent text message. For me, why would I create a fuss out of it? I don’t want to give effort on that. Why fight if you can talk, right? My boyfriend said he’s glad that I’m not a typical irrational + emotional girlfriend, but he considers me as a rational + emotional. Hey, I still listen to the voice of reason despite of what’s going on, but being emotional is just too strong, I haven’t mastered that part yet.


Listen to the voice of reason no matter how intense the situation is.

Well, what would you do if you were me?